Have you noticed it too?
People today are mean. You see on the news how someone has just snapped and gone "postal" (my appologies to any postal workers out there), the road ragers and others. But I'm mostly concerned with down and out meaness just because.
I totally get that sometimes you have a bad day. We all have a bad day now and then. But since when did it become okay to take that bad day out on anyone?
I think the problem all comes down to stress. Stress triggers the fight of flight response and now days most of us are more apt to fight than flight.
And why are we so stressed? I think it's due to stuff! We've been taught that we "need" all this stuff and we're stressing ourselves out to get the stuff. We're maxing out our credit and taking out even more credit to get the stuff...RUINING our economy and then making our government bail out the credit agencies, who were just hoping to make a few bucks off of us, but instead loaned out way too much money for us to ever even hope of paying them back!
I'm trying to figure out an answer! I don't think the politicians have the answer...and I certainly don't think it's the government's job to make us happy.
What do we truely NEED?
Well we need a house or form of shelter. But we don't need a 5 million dollar house with 8 bedrooms & 9 bathrooms that is sitting empty down the road from my house...and apparently most others around me know they don't need it either since it's been empty since it was built.
We need clothing. But we don't need to pay extra for designer labels or for the latest fashions. If it still fits and hasn't worn out (note the built for the dump part of the Story of Stuff) then keep it and wear it. ya know, you shouldn't be worried about what others are thinking of you cuz most of the time they aren't...that only happens in high school.
We need utilities to make our house work. We don't need some super cable of satelite service to get us channels from outer space. Do we really need to be available to talk on the phone any time of the day? I don't think so.
We need transportation to get to our job to pay for our other needs. And nope it doesn't have to be a brand new super luxury car.
Oh we need food. I think other than going to a fancy restaurant or going out to eat a lot that no one is really overspending on food. At least I hope so.
I'm pretty sure that everything else is just a want. And you can put off or save up for a want. Did you know that 9 times out of 10 if you put off a want long enough you'll realize that you don't want it anymore for some reason or another. I've only found one item that I've wanted for a really long time, that I still want. It's the bedroom set that DH & I picked out when we were first married. We don't need it. But we would really like to have it...so maybe one day.
I wonder if we all could choose to just go after our needs instead of this endless pursuit of wants if we could be happy and less mean?